Reconnecting with Our Worth

Things don’t always make sense. It can feel like there is so much wrong with the world. But how do we make our way in such a place? Understanding what is most important to us, deep down, can help us navigate through tough times.


In the busyness and chaos of our lives, we can lose touch with what is most important to us. When this happens, it becomes harder to make decisions. We may feel bad about ourselves. Life can become complicated, and we may even become more likely to experience psychological difficulties.

Every moment we make choices. Take a little time now to ask yourself, what is most important? If we are in touch with our values, it becomes easier to make choices that align with the kind of person we want to be. We can gain confidence. Values can be great motivators when things are tough and give us a sense of direction in life. They are even used in certain therapies, such as acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), to improve psychological well-being.

Below is a list of some values, but this is not a comprehensive list. Values can change over time and vary from person to person. Are there two or three values here that really resonate with you? If not, what other values can you think of that reflect what is most important to you? What matters most to you? Think of a word that describes how you want to be and how you would like to live life now and in the future. Notice that these are brief, one-word descriptions that describe behavior.

  • Acceptance

  • Assertiveness

  • Authenticity

  • Caring

  • Challenge

  • Compassion

  • Connection

  • Contribution

  • Cooperation

  • Courage

  • Creativity

  • Curiosity

  • Encouragement

  • Excitement

  • Fairness

  • Fitness

  • Flexibility

  • Forgiveness

  • Friendliness

  • Fun

  • Generosity

  • Gratitude

  • Honesty

  • Humor

  • Intimacy

  • Industry

  • Independence

  • Kindness

  • Love

  • Open-mindedness

  • Order

  • Persistence

  • Reciprocity

  • Responsibility

  • Safety

  • Self-care

  • Self-development

  • Spirituality

  • Skillfulness

  • Trust

It can be a helpful habit to consider your personal values each morning. How might the day look if you live according to your values?

Whitney Gilley, MD, Psychiatrist

Dr. Gilley is a Board Certified Psychiatrist in private practice. She focuses on adjustment and acute stress, mood and anxiety disorders, trauma recovery, and women’s unique psychiatric needs including treatment of mood and anxiety disorders in pregnancy and post-partum. She is a graduate of the University of Louisville School of Medicine and is board certified in Psychiatry by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and the National Board of Physicians and Surgeons. Dr. Whitney Gilley is gratis Clinical Faculty for the University of Louisville School of Medicine Trover Campus under the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences. She teaches psychiatry to third- and fourth-year medical students on their clinical psychiatry clerkships.

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